Seeing this buzz term a lot over the past month (although it was supposedly coined in the 1980s), and unlike a lot of trending topics on social media, this one needs to be taken seriously by all of us on our human journeys on the planet and in our relationships with other folks’ journeys.
It ain’t all sweetness and light, folks, and that’s part of the spiritual point.
We are immersed in this play of opposites, joy and pain, growth through struggle, on purpose. The ancient Sumerian story that the Garden of Eden in Genesis is based on dealt with this in its own symbolic terms: we came from unity and chose to experience duality in order to grow back into unity. And yes, it felt like a punishment and a separation, but otherwise there’s no experience.
And you can’t grow back toward unity if you don’t go through. Bypassing negative feelings in order to avoid growth is definitely not the purpose of being incarnated on the planet.
Spiritual bypassing also leads to judgment of others who are enmeshed in their own experience in order to grow. It’s not our job to call down from some “higher” calmness plane to tell people that their painful experience is just an illusion and they should ignore it. Nor are we called upon to constantly remind others to see the larger lesson or their own responsibility for their reality while bypassing our own responsibility to feel our feelings and grow through.
We are each responsible for our own journey here, and that is the first responsibility. Without feeling our own pain, there is no way to feel compassion for others, who are also part of the unity that is ultimately all of us.
So, let’s feel all the feels and show by our authentic growth from them that we are ultimately the embodiment of compassion. That’s the guiding light that will inspire others.
Signposts on the Hermit’s Path
The article that inspired this post came from Uplift and Jonathan Toniolo last year. Check it out here: How to Know if You Are Spiritually Bypassing.